Ever felt you are less of a man because you always ejaculate too soon during sex? You are not alone. Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common sexual dysfunction that affects as many as 4 in 10 men. But because this is a condition that is largely caused by emotional anxiety rather than an inherent medical or hereditary condition, it can be rectified with the proper conditioning approach at home. And one of the best ways to treat premature ejaculation is to adopt an exercise regimen that helps to rewire your early ejaculation triggers and dramatically increase your sexual stamina.

So what is a great PE exercise to help regain your confidence in bed? Well, let’s examine this below.

Kegel or PC muscle exercises

The PC or pubococcygeus muscle is a key muscle that controls the flow of urine and semen. By working out and strengthening these set of muscles, you can drastically delay the time you take to ejaculate during sex.

So how do you locate you PC muscle? Simple. Try stopping the flow of urine the next time you are in the bathroom. The great thing about PC muscle (or Kegel) exercise is that it is totally hands-free; you can perform it anytime, anywhere without anyone knowing the difference.

How do you perform the kegel exercise? Well, you simply need to clench/squeeze and hold your PC muscle for 5 seconds and then release. Repeat this ten times, and take 5 second breaks in between. Incrementally work this up to 200 repetitions per session.

What happens when you do kegel exercises?

Within 2 to 3 weeks, you will experience harder erections, more superior control of your ejaculation and last much longer in bed. And of course, when this happens, your confidence levels will soar too!

Here’s what you should avoid when performing kegels…

Resist the temptation to overdo the exercises. I know, it can be tempting to want to gain better control overnight and step up your exercises. But just like any regular exercise routine, you need to give your body time to heal and allow the exercises to strengthen your muscles. You don’t expect to gain a six-pack just feverishly doing crunches overnight, do you? If you work within your body limits and not against it, you will achieve far better results, and in lesser time too.

There is also a tendency to contract other muscles in your body (such as abdominal and thigh muscles) when you first start off with kegel exercises. This is because it is difficult to isolate the right PC muscle at the onset, especially when these muscles are weak to begin with. If you feel you are contracting other muscles, just relax and start the routine again. With enough practice, you will easily isolate and “squeeze” the right muscle.

Let’s face it. You have no lack of options on the table (or in bed) when it comes to treating premature ejaculation. But before we move on to examine the various alternatives and what makes a good cure, it is important to properly understand what premature ejaculation really is – and if you are really suffering from it.

You could be a premature ejaculator if:

- You come to an orgasm within 2 minutes of intercourse

- You are unable to sexually fulfill your female partner on more than 50% of the occasion

- Your inability to last long enough is causing distress to you or your partner

But really, you do not need to feel embarrassed or humiliated if you are suffering from premature ejaculation. This is not a form of illness or disease, and the fact that you are among 20 to 40 percent of all men who have to deal with this issue means that you are not alone in this. And the sooner you recognize that you need help, the faster you will resolve this problem and enjoy the kind of long lasting sex that you know you deserve.

So what is considered a good PE treatment?

- When evaluating the treatment options best suited for you, I suggest you take these 2 criteria into consideration:

- The treatment provides a PERMANENT cure instead of just a short-term solution

- The treatment should be natural and relies on your body’s natural responses to improve your sexual stamina.

So which PE treatments are recommended? Let’s take a look below.

Common premature ejaculation treatments

These are some of the common “cures” for PE. Let us examine if they are really effective and provide a long-term solution to your early ejaculation.

1. Anti-depressants – There are plenty on the market, with notable ones such as Prozac and Paxil. Are they worth your time? Well, these drugs do work, but they come with unintended consequences – such as the loss of libido or even difficulty in ejaculating. You have to consume these pills or drugs on a daily basis. Plus they don’t work if you take them just before sex. Before taking on these drugs, it is best that you consult a doctor about the potential side effects and if they are the best option for you.

2. Numbing applicators such as creams, lotions and sprays – These are popular solutions among men suffering from PE. They do work, but these are more of temporary quick fixes that do not permanently cure your early ejaculation problem. They can be useful if you need extra endurance at a moment’s notice, but solutions such as desensitizing creams have the potential to dull or lower the sensations you and your partner will experience during sex.

3. Naturally “re-wire” your ejaculatory response – This is a permanent treatment and addresses the root causes of your premature ejaculation. It encompasses a natural, time-tested training routine that conditions your body to withstand sexual stimulation and prolong your ejaculation. You will not see immediate results, but you will definitely experience permanent effects of lasting longer in bed, every single time.

Achieving a permanent fix to your premature ejaculation problem (PE) is the most important thing that any guy can do. Although there are plenty of products on the market that claim to treat PE and help you last longer in bed – such as desensitizing sprays, creams, pills and “climax control” condoms – these really are short-term fixes. To permanently cure your rapid ejaculation woes, addressing the underlying causes of PE is key. So how do you permanently prevent yourself from ejaculating too early during sex? The answer lies in a natural, time-tested 4-step strategy. Let’s find out below!

Step #1 – Determine the underlying factors of YOUR premature ejaculation

There are several causes for PE, and these affect every guy differently. Among these are stress and anxiety (including ‘performance anxiety’), as well as bad masturbation habits that were picked up from teenage years. Some guys are also unable to control their ejaculation due to problems relating to erectile dysfunction – they rush through sex due to fear of being unable to maintain their erections.

Step #2 – Determine how long you want to last

This is key. Without setting a target of how long you want to last, it is difficult, almost impossible, to eradicate your premature ejaculation because you have no specific end goal in sight. Incrementally increase your target once you reach each milestone. But be realistic. If you are unable to last more than 30 seconds now (seriously, some guys have it this bad!), setting a target of reaching 20 minutes of ‘staying power’ within a week is a surefire way to set yourself up for failure and disappointment.

Step #3 – Maintain a positive attitude and outlook

Like all things that are worth doing, you have to be upbeat about what you are going to achieve. You have to believe you CAN totally and permanently cure your premature ejaculation problem, just like many guys before you who believe they can. Maintain a positive image of what you can do with that extra sexual endurance, and how much more enjoyment you can give to your female partner (and yourself too!).

Step #4 – Stay the course until you achieve your desired outcome!

Learn the proper techniques to improve your time to ejaculation. There are many natural conditioning and training methods, such as arousal control, breathing control, pelvic floor exercises and the correct masturbation techniques that will help increase your sexual stamina. The key is to take consistent action. Your body needs time to adjust to the training and conditioning. By focusing on what you need to do and staying the course, you will dramatically improve how long you will last in bed. Remember, practice makes perfect. Every single time.

Controlling premature ejaculation without relying on aids such as desensitizers or creams is totally possible. All you need is to learn how your body reacts prior to ejaculation and keep the stimulation in check before it tips over the “point of no return”. And one of the best ways to achieve this is through masturbation. Although masturbation is often cited as a contributory factor to premature ejaculation, you can turn this around and use it to your advantage. Here’s how…

1. Simulate the action of intercourse by stroking your penis up and down. Allow the physical sensations of stimulation to manifest. Pay attention to how your body responds and feels as the excitement piles up. You may not be able to prevent yourself from ejaculating. That is OK. The key is to recognize the point when you ejaculate and the sensations that accompany this stage.

2. Perform the same routine again. Once you have an erection, stop the stimulation altogether for 15 seconds. Pay attention to how your body feels when the sensations of excitement subside. Then continue masturbating again, stopping and continuing the movements until you feel you are close to a peak. As soon as you sense you are climaxing, stop all stimulation again until you regain control once more.

3. You may find yourself losing the erection when you discontinue the stimulation. Don’t worry. Just resume the stimulation again. Get yourself close to climaxing three times, and allow yourself to ejaculate on the forth time. This exercise may take some getting used to at first, but with some practice, you will notice 2 things happening between the stops: First, you will regain control much sooner; second, you will improve the time you take for the stimulation to reach a peak.

4. Increase the number of times that you stop the stimulation just to the “point of no return” from three to six. Once you can achieve this milestone, perform this routine daily.

5. Increase the challenge by using a lubricant to simulate penetration. Perform the same routine, that is, stopping three times before ejaculation and then increasing this to six times in between stops.

6. If you have a partner, you can get her involved in this exercise.

This is an extremely useful exercise to improve your time to ejaculation. Of course, like all things worth doing, practice makes perfect. Don’t be discouraged if you ejaculate too soon on the first few attempts. With enough practice, your body will be able to endure increased levels of stimulation during masturbation, which of course you can carry over to the actual lovemaking!

Are you not lasting long enough in bed? Do you feel your inability to control your ejaculation is putting a strain on your sexual relationship? If so, you need to read this article. You see, premature ejaculation need not be a debilitating condition that strips away all confidence in you. Although many guys suffer from this inevitable scourge, many more are beating rapid ejaculation at its own game with patience, knowledge and effort. Keep reading and learn how you can keep your ejaculation blues at bay and start to enjoy sex to the fullest and at the same time, ensure that your female partner gets the sizzling sex that she deserves too.

#1 – Communication is paramount

Many men who suffer from PE tend to shy away from this problem and feel sorry for themselves. Don’t let this be you. If you want to get the coveted ability to enjoy hours of passionate lovemaking, you got to learn to face this squarely. Communicate with your partner on how much stimulation you can handle before you blow your lid off. Use words such as “stop”, “hold it”, “get started” to let her know when you are getting too close to a climax, and when to resume the intercourse when you feel the sensations subsiding. Premature ejaculation is often the result of fear, stress and anxiety over your sexual performance. By communicating with your partner and feeling totally comfortable with each other in a relaxed setting, premature ejaculation is far less likely to happen to you.

#2 – Extended sessions

Climaxing too soon during sex? There is no need to fear. Go for a second round. When you ejaculate too soon, you will almost certainly last much longer the second time. Continue to pleasure your woman with some foreplay or even oral sex while you “recover” from your first round of ejaculation. When you feel good enough to go again, you can resume your intercourse. The great thing about this is that you could already have given her an orgasm during the foreplay (hint: it is good to learn up some great foreplay techniques to heat her up), and giving her yet another one during intercourse will come sooner.

#3 – Pelvic floor exercises

The key to sustaining long-lasting sex is to develop strong pelvic muscles. This will give you superior control during sex and endure intense stimulation to your penis. Pelvic muscles are the same ones that you use to control the flow of urination. To perform this exercise, simply contract the muscle for 5 seconds, relax for 5 seconds and repeat 10 times. This exercise is easy to do and can be performed anywhere.

Many men suffer from some form of sexual dysfunction, ranging from erectile problems to early ejaculation. But among these sexual afflictions, the number one recurring problem that we hear so often has got to do with premature ejaculation or PE. According to studies, at least one third of men have to deal with problems related to rapid ejaculation. Despite this being so common, it is one of the least discussed issues, and understandably so. A guy who has a problem staying erect and lasting the distance will in all likelihood feel embarrassed about his lack of ‘staying power’.

Premature ejaculation: A common definition

Most guys ejaculate within 3 minutes upon intercourse. Technically, premature ejaculation can be defined as an ejaculation that occurs too soon to satisfy your female partner. And using time as a yardstick to define PE is often a flawed principle, simply because this is subjective. A man may last 10 minutes in bed and feel proud about it, yet for another guy, 5 minutes is all he needs to fulfill himself and his partner.

Getting the problem fixed

Men are ‘genetically wired’ for early ejaculation as part of our reproductive system. This genetic factor for early release is to ensure the survival of the human species, and lasting really long in bed does not serve any purpose in this. But of course, that doesn’t mean you cannot last the distance if you want to. The trick in curing premature ejaculation lies in controlling the ejaculatory process and allowing the release when you are ready for it.

The good news is that premature ejaculation can be permanently cured, although it does require some time and effort on your part.

Natural conditioning to nip early ejaculation in the bud

The key to lasting longer is to become familiar with your body and your sexual responses. You have to learn how to prevent yourself from coming too close to the “point of no return” (PNOR) – which is the stage where ejaculation becomes inevitable. To achieve this, you have to be aware of the sensations during sex and the feelings leading up to a climax. There are many useful techniques that you can practice to delay ejaculation, such as the stop-start routine where you halt your sexual movements until the pleasurable sensations subside, then resume stimulation again.

Another useful natural method to treat early ejaculation is to adopt proper deep breathing techniques that will help you develop superior ejaculatory control. This sounds easy enough, but not many men are aware of this. Deep breathing helps to calm your nerves during sex and keeps the arousal and sexual tension below the point where ejaculation becomes inevitable.

Instant gratification. That is the buzz word today, whether it is to gain wealth, lose weight or get a date. When it comes to lasting longer in bed, it is no different. In our pursuit to enjoy incredible, long-lasting lovemaking, men have always been seeking the instant solution to stop premature ejaculation in its track. And premature ejaculation sprays have become the proverbial solution that many guys are seeking out. But the question is, do these sprays really work? Do they really get you to last hours in the sack and give your woman the time of her life? Well, let’s read on and find out the truth!

Can you feel a thing?

Most of the topical sprays you see on shelves today claim to work their “magic” through the use of a numbing agent. What this means is that these products will essentially dull your sensations that you experience during sex. With the lower levels of arousal, you will last longer in bed. But is this what you want? Sex is supposed to be experienced to the fullest with all your senses. By using sprays, you are limiting your enjoyment of one of the most liberating experiences of men. Not just you. Your female partner will not be able to enjoy sex to the fullest simply because the effects of the spray tend to rub off on her during intercourse. Think about this. You want sex to last longer because you want to sexually satisfy her, don’t you? Well, numbing her most sensitive areas is certainly not the best way to help her achieve her climax.

That said, premature ejaculation sprays can come in handy if you need a quick fix when you have a date that suddenly turns sexual. But bear in mind that these topical sprays are not a permanent solution to your early ejaculation woes.

Oh, and the embarrassment…

Now, how would you like to run off to the bathroom to apply the spray each time you want to have sex? That is embarrassing, isn’t it? Well, and it certainly does not look the least bit manly that you have to depend on a bottle of ‘foreign assistance’ to help you last longer in the sack.

So what makes for a good premature ejaculation cure?

If you want to beat your early ejaculation blues for good, look for a solution that PERMANENTLY reverses the underlying causes of your rapid ejaculation (and not just a temporary fix). The solution should also be a natural one so that you can prevent any undesirable side effects.

Forget about seeking instant gratification when it comes to curing premature ejaculation. To get results that last, you need time, effort and discipline to re-program your ejaculation reflexes through natural training and conditioning techniques. It is not an instant quick fix, but it will bestow upon you the physical and mental ability to become a “marathon man” in bed!

So you want to prevent premature ejaculation and extend your lovemaking sessions. Well, stamina is one major sticking point that most guys face in the bedroom. If you cannot last long enough in bed, there is a good chance that your woman is not getting as much fun as she deserves. But is there a proven technique to develop superior control and stop early ejaculation in its tracks? There sure is!

The secret lies in training and conditioning your body so that you can stay below the point where your arousal tips over into ejaculation inevitability. And the best thing is, this is actually easy to achieve, and without the embarrassment of having to apply desensitizing creams or put on extra condoms. Keep reading and learn an amazingly simple ‘ABC’ technique that can help you develop vastly superior ejaculatory control really fast.

The ‘ABC’ Technique Of Lasting Longer

#1 – Avoid rapid thrusting: This is a no-brainer but it surprises me just how many men go into frenzied thrusting mode during intercourse. Just by slowing down the speed of your penetration, you will stem quick ejaculation almost instantly. In addition, try to alter the angle and depth of thrusts so that your penis gland (or head) receives less stimulation.

#2 – Block your motions: Continue your penetration until the point where you feel you are almost close to ejaculation. Then discontinue your thrusts immediately. But don’t just stop and lie there. There is no rule saying that only your manhood can provide her pleasure! Go ahead and continue to stimulate your partner using your hands and mouth. Kiss and caress her on her most sensitive areas until your stimulation and arousal have leveled off. Only then do you resume penetration again. But at this stage you would probably get close to the edge again in less time. This is when you go to the next step of this technique.

#3 – Clutch your ‘head’: The first 2 steps should have you lasting for at least 4 minutes (which is beyond the average man’s staying power). This time, when you feel close to the tipping point, withdraw your member and clutch or squeeze the head of your penis. Your will not feel any pain, so go ahead and give it a pinch. When the sensations subside, you can continue intercourse.

Try using all three steps of this technique. Many guys reported extending their lovemaking sessions by up to 7 minutes with these 3 moves. If at first you don’t succeed, keep trying. You will only get better and last much longer!

Are you suffering from the unenviable scourge of premature ejaculation? For many men, not lasting long enough in bed is a deep-seated embarrassment. Although there are plenty of so-called ‘miracle cures’ on the market that claim to extend your sexual stamina, many of these require you to apply external ointments and sprays which can ultimately reduce your sensation during sex.

But without falling prey to dubious marketing tactics and ‘lasting longer products’, are there natural ways to boost your staying power in bed? Indeed there are. And one powerful technique is to adopt sexual positions that will help you control your levels of arousal during sex. The truth is that the right sex positions can be one of the best cures for premature ejaculation – if you know how use it correctly. Let’s take a quick look at one easy position that can add minutes to your lovemaking.

Leverage the Power of the ‘Spoon’

Also known as the ‘front to back’ position, the ‘spoon’ basically requires both you and your female partner to lie on your sides with both your legs slightly bent. The area of her hips will be pressed against your groin while your penetrate her from behind.

This position gives you a lot of control over your stimulation and arousal levels. Firstly, by lying down, you are reducing the amount of stress and tension exerted on your arms and legs that are needed for support. Second, ‘spooning’ enables you to adjust the speed and intensity of the thrusting, as well as the depth of penetration. Third, this is a great position to slow down your thrusts, lean over her shoulders to kiss her face and neck or use your hands to caress her breasts – which greatly helps to divert attention away from the stimulation to your manhood.

The spoon position is great for women too because it enhances the intimacy levels between couples.

A Naughty Variation

You can add more spice to this position by taking her upper leg and draping it across your own. This forces her thighs to open fairly widely, allowing you to thrust deeply and giving you great access to her clitoris.

Here’s another trick to help you last longer: When you sense that you are close to a climax, withdraw your penis from her until the sensation subsides. Then switch to another position that is great for keep premature ejaculation in check, such as variations of the woman-on-top position.

The key is to take things slowly during intercourse. Keep the tempo steady and unhurried. You will last much longer. And she will be impressed that you are able to take control during sex!

For many couples, premature ejaculation is a woefully common problem. In fact, many men ejaculate as soon as penetration starts. For others, sex fizzles out after just two minutes. So how do you have sex longer when you can’t even hold your ejaculation for a couple of minutes? Let us take a closer look below.

The “Step-Up” Technique To Lasting Longer

Premature ejaculation tends to affect younger men, especially those in their 20s and 30s. This is understandable, as men are most sexually active in their early years and have yet to learn how to control their ejaculation.

There is one extremely powerful technique you can use to enhance your ejaculatory control. This involves three stages, with each one incrementally more challenging than the one before (thus the “step-up”).

Stage #1

When you are alone, try masturbating to achieve an erection. Then use your thumb, index and middle fingers to firmly squeeze your penis head until the sensation cools off. Then stimulate your penis again and repeat the squeeze to reduce the sensation once more. Repeat this 3 to 4 times until you become acutely aware of how it feels at the point of ejaculation. This takes a little practice, but after a few weeks, you should have gained enough control to last at least a few minutes longer.

Stage #2

This is similar to the first step, except this time you will involve your partner to perform the squeezing routine to control your stimulation and arousal. Repeat this on several occasions and you will significantly improve your ejaculatory control. Now you are ready for the next stage.

Stage #3

This is the most challenging part. Again get your partner involved and ask her to sit on you with her legs straddling your hips. Insert your penis into her and just lie on your back without any movement. When you find yourself able to contain your arousal, ask your partner to slowly move her hips up and down. Watch your sensations. As soon as you sense you are peaking, ask her to stop, get off and perform the squeeze technique. Repeat this entire routine over several lovemaking sessions.

It should not be long before you achieve the ability to hold your orgasm and ejaculate at will.

Here’s an additional tip: Often times, it is the female partner who spends time getting the men aroused. Why not turn it around and try arousing her FIRST? This is a quick way to turn the tables on your early ejaculation and make sex last much longer for you.

Are you embarrassed by how soon you finish in bed? Is premature ejaculation making you feel less of a man and make you look like a lousy lover? There is probably nothing worse than your woman anticipating a night of pleasure, only to have you being “too quick on the draw” and ejaculate too soon. That’s not all. Early ejaculation often leads to loss of confidence in a man and increases his performance anxiety. This in turn doesn’t help – and in many cases – worsen your problem of early ejaculation.

Sex positions: The bane of the premature ejaculator?

Truth be told, most couples adopt at most 2 different sex positions during intercourse. Well, considering that most guys ejaculate within two to four minutes during sex, that does not provide much leeway for experimenting with different positions. But ironically, the converse is also true: the more positions you experiment with during sex, the more likely you will find some positions that will give you better control over your arousal and stimulation levels. In short, how long you last in bed and how well you perform can be directly controlled and improved by the sex position you use.

The truth about positioning

There are certain sex positions that put undue stress on your arms, legs and other parts of your body. This stress makes it difficult to control your arousal and delay your ejaculation. The missionary position is a surefire position for quick ejaculation. Well, this is a common position that most guys use during sex… so is it any wonder that many men don’t last the distance? What happens is that this position requires you to prop yourself up. And after thrusting for a couple of minutes, the amount of stress and tension in the muscles on your arms and legs will often push you over the edge and make you lose control over your arousal.

So what position is great for prolonging ejaculation?

Great question! The woman-on-top or cowgirl position gives you far better ejaculatory control even though your woman is actually controlling the movements and thrusting. When your partner is on top, your body muscles become relaxed and you have a far better chance of lasting longer.

A good way to vary the positions is to start off with the missionary when you are most in control and have the highest energy levels. When fatigue kicks in and you know you are close to ejaculation, switch to the cowgirl position. Just the fact that you are changing positions will also reduce your arousal level and keep your ejaculatory reflexes in control.

When guys talk about increasing stamina in bed, they inevitably talk about tips and techniques to prevent premature ejaculation. Indeed there are many “tricks in the trade” you can pull out from your sexual toolkit to try to last longer, and many men’s favorite appears to be the “Distraction Technique”.

How does the Distraction Technique work?

The concept is really simple. When you are close to ejaculating during sex, you simply switch your mind to something else other than sex. Anything that mentally pulls your mind momentarily away from what you are doing. Some guys think about football; others imagine ugly TV personalities; or something physical like clenching your fists tightly.

Are these techniques effective? Well, just ask yourself this: Do you want to always rely on thinking about something else during sex to delay ejaculation? I doubt so! Sex is meant to be fully enjoyed by a couple, and staying in mind and body (and not out of it) is that best way to enjoy lovemaking.

BUT… there is a Distraction Technique that works extremely well

And you should be using this easy ‘shortcut’ instead. That is, you should introduce VARIETY into your lovemaking. Sex is not just about thrusting and penetration. It is the entire experience of giving and receiving pleasure. This means a combination of foreplay, erotic teasing, lustful communication, kissing, massaging and of course, penetration. By switching up what you do during sex, you will not only keep your woman in suspense and anticipation, you are effectively keeping your own stimulation levels under control.

And don’t forget about oral sex!

Ask any woman in private which sexual activity she likes best, chances are she will tell you it is oral sex. Did you know that surveys after surveys have concluded that most women prefer their men to go down on them than the actual act of intercourse? It is true. More than penetrative sex, oral sex has the best chance of giving a woman an orgasm.

This is probably the best distraction technique you can learn and use. Why? Because once you can give her an orgasm through oral sex, you will no longer feel the pressure to give her one during intercourse. And the best thing is, once she has climaxed before intercourse, achieving subsequent orgasms becomes much easier for her as well, and with greater intensity to boot! Above all, by removing this psychological barrier to perform, you will naturally be able to last much longer in bed!

Men have always wanted to achieve longer lasting sex and give their partners tantalizing pleasure in bed. But the simple truth is that a good majority of men (up to 40%) ejaculate too early during sex. This means they are unable to bring their women to an orgasm through intercourse.

So how long should a man last in bed?

There is no hard and fast answer to this. For most couples, premature ejaculation simply means that the guy comes to a climax too soon to satisfy both parties. Truth is, the average man lasts only about two and a half minutes before calling it quits. There are many more men who ejaculate immediately upon contact with their partners, or even through just visual stimulation. And with the fact that most women do not reach an orgasm until they have at least 10-15 minutes of stimulation, this also means you should last that long to keep her satisfied.

Non-penetrative technique to satisfy your partner

But not all is lost. If you are not lasting as long as you would like, you can learn this simple, non-penetrative sex technique to provide pleasure to your woman: oral sex.

Oral sex is a great way to please your partner in bed. In fact, many women can achieve an orgasm through this intimate act alone. So if you can help her reach a climax with your mouth and tongue FIRST, everything else becomes far easier and the pressure is no longer on you to perform. Let’s take a look at how you can supercharge her sensations and give her a great time in bed, orally.

#1 – Non-genital oral sex

Do not head straight for her clitoris. You see, oral sex essentially means you can kiss and caress any of her erogenous zones, not just her genitals. In fact, the vast majority of women will enjoy oral sex performed on their entire bodies. It is a sign of romance and a show of confidence that their men know exactly how to please them.

Here’s what you can do. Start by kissing her face gently, followed by her lips and then slowly turn your attention to her ear lobes. At the same time, use your hands to caress other parts of her body. Then turn your tongue to her breasts and nipples and slowly move down her navel. This will get her primed for the next move.

#2 – Genital oral sex

There is no fix way to stimulate her clitoris with your tongue. Experiment and see what she likes most. For a start, you can try licking the tip of her clitoris, followed by the sides and the clitoral hood. At all times, try to keep your tongue soft. Some women find this kind of stimulation too intense, so it is best to try it out and vary your techniques as you go along.

You will soon help her overcome her inhibitions and truly enjoy oral sex. Best of all, it helps to boost your staying power in bed by prolonging her pleasure before intercourse!

Imagine you could last 20, 30 or even 60 minutes in bed. If you’re anything like most guys reading this, you are looking for the best cure for premature ejaculation. And there is good reason for that. Early ejaculation and the consequent lack of sexual fulfillment in a relationship often leave many couples frustrated. You see, the vast majority of men lose control two or three minutes into intercourse. That is not even close to the amount of time a woman generally needs to reach an orgasm. Is it any wonder that many relationships (even marriages) are put in the rocks? You bet!

The cold hard truth is that if you are unable to satisfy her in between the sheets, chances are, you could not help wondering if she is seeking pleasure elsewhere. But the simple fact is that, lasting longer and having complete control over when you ejaculate during sex is totally possible. In fact, it is easy to achieve with the proper knowledge and practice.

A proven premature ejaculation cure

Let’s take a quick look at one of the best ways to dramatically improve your sexual endurance. This involves a two-pronged approach to tackle both the mental and physical aspects of your sexual arousal.

Step #1 – “Stay The Course”

By this, I mean keeping your head cool (pardon the pun). You see, there is a tipping point within your sexual arousal cycle, beyond which there is no way you can prevent ejaculation. When men are close to reaching this tipping point, many just panic and this simply pushes them over the edge. Tell yourself this: It is OK to ejaculate early. Just continue to pleasure her, with your hands, fingers and mouth. Don’t break the momentum just because you blow early. A woman can still achieve an orgasm without your penis in her.

If you can continue to give her pleasure this way, you will gain greater confidence in your sexual ability. Over time, the pressure on you to perform will reduce, and believe me, this will naturally boost your staying power and keep your early ejaculation triggers in check.

Step #2 – The “Deep Thrust Theory”

One reason why you ejaculate early is due to the intense stimulation your penis head is receiving during intercourse. So the key is to reduce this stimulation without reducing her pleasure. How? Thrust slowly and as deeply as she can possibly take. At the same time, perform the thrusts in a circular motion that nicely stimulates her clitoris at the point where your pelvic bone meets her vagina. This simple technique will prolong your ejaculation and gives you far more control as well.

Being able to last long in sex is the dream of many men who are unable to control their ejaculation. Guys who finish too soon during lovemaking often end up feeling frustrated and embarrassed about their inability to satisfy their women. But there is no need to berate or feel sorry for yourself just because you are not lasting long enough. There are many guys who are in the same exact predicament as you. In fact there is evidence from medical studies that as many as 40% of all men are regular ‘premature ejaculators’ who cannot hold up for more than two minutes of sexual intercourse. And surveys carried out by many reputable men’s magazines reveal that as many as 75% of men wish they could last longer in the sack.

But are you really a ‘quick shooter’?

The truth of the matter is, judging a man’s sexual endurance by how long he last during sex is not really a true indicator of the sexual barometer (or fulfillment) between a couple. You see, it all depends on how soon your female partner is satisfied in sex. In most cases, this occurs when she achieves an orgasm. So, if you last no more than 2 minutes during sex but she is able to reach a climax before that, are you really a ‘premature ejaculator’? Most medical professionals and sex therapists will think not. After all, there is no reason for a man to keep going for 20, 30 minutes if the couple is not enjoying sex.

So the aim for men really is to lower the threshold or the time it takes for their female partners to achieve an orgasm through proven techniques like adequate mental and physical foreplay.

Tips to make sex last longer

That said, many guys would still prefer to be able to go the distance during lovemaking. After all, a man’s sexual endurance is often a measure of his masculinity and a show of confidence. That in itself can be a huge turn on for women. So what are the best ways to last longer and give her the pleasure she deserves? Here are two quick and easy tips:

Tip #1 – “Mind over body”: Guys who ejaculate too fast tend to be anxious about their performance in bed. It is our bodies’ natural mechanism to release tension by ejaculating early. So one of the keys to lasting longer is simply to relax your mind during sex. A great way to achieve this is by practicing deep breathing, before and during sex. You should also release your breathe during penetration and inhale while withdrawing.

Tip #2 – “Slow burning furnace”: Men have a tendency to rush through sex and reach a tipping point too fast. Instead of thrusting right out of the gate, why not takes things slowly? Enjoy the full experience of sex rather than focusing on just intercourse. This also means taking the time to give her pleasure FIRST. Slow down, and both you and her will enjoy sex much better… and of course you will last much longer too!