When it comes to sex, the vast majority of men are absolutely clueless about how to control premature ejaculation to last longer in bed. The truth is also that most men have this mistaken notion that there is nothing they can do to improve their sexual stamina and endurance. Granted, you will not achieve superior control over your ejaculation overnight. But it is certainly possible and just requires a basic understanding of how your ejaculatory process works.

The straight scoop about your ‘ejaculatory tipping point’

There is a “point of no return” during sex. This is when a man’s arousal levels are pushed over the edge such that ejaculation becomes imminent and inevitable. How quickly a man reaches this tipping point depends on how he controls his arousal at the onset of sex. You see, most guys who are inexperienced in sex simply allow their arousal to rule over their heads and do not control their stimulation until it is too late.

You have to understand that you cannot wait until you reach tipping point to take action – or in most cases, to completely stop all action and just stay still, hoping that the sensation will subside. To completely control your ejaculation, you need to know how to maintain your arousal levels at ALL time – until the time you choose to climax.

How to manage your arousal level

This is simple. All you need is to establish a mental ‘stimulation scale’ of one to ten. ’1′ is when sex begins and you are not at all stimulated. ’10′ – as you have probably guessed, represents your ejaculation. Here’s what you do:

Step #1 – Keep the stimulation scale in mind as soon as sex commences

Step #2 – At all times, be aware of where you are on the stimulation scale. This will allow you to keep in control.

Step #3 – When you reach around ’6′ on the scale, how long have you engaged in sex? Just a couple of minutes? If so, go to step #4. If you have already lasted several minutes, then just carry on with what you are doing.

Step #4 – Before you hit ’7′ or ’8′ on the scale, DO something to reduce your arousal level. This could mean switching to another less stimulating sex position, varying the depth of penetration, or simply to slow down your thrusting. Doing so will help push back your stimulation level and help you last longer.

The key is to always stay 2 to 3 steps ahead of the point of no return, until you decide to climax. Believe me, this will DRAMATICALLY improve your sexual endurance, without fail.

Is it possible for the average man to last more than 10 minutes during sex? This simple answer is yes. But with so many guys suffering from the scourge of premature ejaculation, lasting even just 4 minutes of intercourse may seem like an impossible thing to do. Indeed, PE is an extremely common sexual condition that has afflicted men since the dawn of time. Almost every guy would have at least experienced finishing too soon at one time or another, although the problem is more prevalent in young men who are new to sex or guys who do not have sex frequently.

There is evidence that men who have sex regularly tend to have better control over their ejaculation. But more often than not, their ‘lasting power’ is still insufficient to bring women to an orgasm. After all, most women require a minimum of ten to fifteen minutes to be properly aroused and reach a climax.

Ways to end premature ejaculation

So how you do end premature ejaculation for good, and finally have the ability to pleasure your lover and deliver fully satisfying sex? Well, if you search the internet, you will realize there is simply no lack of tips and techniques for lasting longer. There are predominantly two kinds of solutions to PE – short term and long term.

#1 – Short-term treatments

Temporary treatment include the use of numbing sprays and/or creams which help to reduce the amount of sensation you will experience during sex. Cock rings are another popular way to prolong the time for ejaculation. These are typically worn at the base of the penis as a form of constriction.

A more straightforward (and more primitive) method is to simply wear a thicker condom (or put on two). But honestly, these solutions are not ideal for obvious reasons. They severely limit the amount of pleasure you would give and receive from your partner. So what is a better alternative?

#2 – Long term solutions

Temporary solutions like those mentioned above are useful if you want to last longer at a moment’s notice. But they are just temporary ‘clutches’ and not permanent cures. If you want to enjoy truly amazing and long lasting sex, it makes more sense to completely eradicate your premature ejaculation problem.

Natural training methods that involve conditioning your ejaculatory reflexes and arousal triggers are essential to lasting longer in bed. These methods will include PE exercises that strengthen specific muscle groups so that these muscles stay relaxed and have the ability to endure hard stimulation during lovemaking. Although natural conditioning takes longer to yield results, you will be able to gain TOTAL ejaculatory control and give more pleasure to your lover… and of course, get more sex from her as a result!

Learning how to delay ejaculation can be an embarrassing challenge. Guys suffering from premature ejaculation are often ashamed of bringing this sexual problem to a therapist or doctor. Yet many men continue to fall for supposed “magical cures” that claim to help you last for ages or other outrageous claims. Let’s take a quick look at some of these cures that would probably do more harm to you than good. Later in this article I will reveal one proven strategy that will work wonders in supercharging your sexual stamina. Let’s read on…

Three PE “cures” to avoid

#1 – Anti-depressant drugs (SSRI): These drugs help to raise the level of serotonin in your body – hormones that reduce your urge to ejaculate. But the use of such drugs is known to have side effects, including erectile dysfunction, reduced libido and the inability or achieve an orgasm. Read the last one again – you want to delay ejaculation and not stop ejaculation altogether!

#2 – Exotic herbs and substances: There are herbal tablets or pills on the market that claim to treat premature ejaculation. I have even seen coconut oil being marketed as a miracle solution to help you last longer in the sack! But my advice is to adopt a cautious approach in using substances that are not even approved for use by the FDA. They can potentially cause you greater damage than you bargain for.

#3 – Hypnosis treatments: This is an option that has garnered some interest among men, mainly for its unconventional approach. This treatment is premised on the basis of addressing your subconscious mind to release the fears, stress and sexual inhibitions that cause premature ejaculation. It basically helps you regain greater confidence, reduce “performance anxiety” and achieve greater mental control. Does this really work? Well, for some guys – especially those who have problems dealing with arousal and mental stimulation – this can improve their staying power. But the improvements are only marginal, in the range of 10 to 15 percent. It is neither a complete, permanent cure nor an effective solution.

A 3-pronged approach to lasting longer

So what can you do then to totally eradicate your premature ejaculation woes? One tried and tested approach is to adopt a 3-pronged strategy:

#1 – Developing mental control: This involves managing your levels of arousal at all times, or at least until you decide to climax

#2 – Re-instituting a chemical balance in the body: There are hormones that are released during intercourse that affect how soon you ejaculate. Getting these hormones in balance will allow you to naturally control how long you take to ejaculate.

#3 – Regaining physical control: This involves training and conditioning a key set of muscles, nerves and glands that regulate your physical ejaculatory process.

The beauty of this natural, straightforward 3-step process is that any man can learn and do these at home.

There is probably nothing in the world that gives a man greater pleasure than knowing he has the ability to satisfy any woman in bed. But for many guys, sex is often a short-lived affair (even an embarrassing one) that ends as soon as the heart starts pounding and the adrenalin gets rushing. Does this sound familiar to you? If so, there is nothing you should worry about, because premature ejaculation is far more common than you would probably imagine. More importantly, it is a condition that can be completely treated without medical help.

The psychological causes of PE

There is a host of factors that can cause premature ejaculation, but for many men, their PE problem is deeply ingrained in psychological factors. These factors include anxiety or depression about one’s performance in bed, an inherent expectation of failure, stress in life, negative sexual experiences in the past, or problems within the current relationship.

How soon is too soon?

This is subjective and really depends on every couple. Premature ejaculation basically occurs when you ejaculate sooner than what you or your partner would want. For 20 to 40 percent of men, this milestone is often 2 minutes or less. Some men lose control even as soon as foreplay begins; others ejaculate at the onset of penetration. The key thing is that without proper treatment, PE can cause undue tension and unhappiness between a couple.

BUT… losing control occasionally is completely NORMAL

That’s right. Premature ejaculation becomes a problem only if it occurs all the time. If you ejaculate quickly when you have sex for the first time, or if you have not had intercourse for a long while, this is completely normal. But if your consistent lack of control is causing you and your partner distress, there is help at hand.

Non-medical treatments to keep your early ejaculation triggers under control

There is a suite of different treatment options that can help you regain confidence in bed and last longer. These are two non-medical treatments you should try before you decide to make an embarrassing trip to the doctor:

#1 – Strengthening the muscles in the pelvic muscles using targeted exercises. These are muscles that stop the flow of urine and semen. Repeated tightening and releasing of these important muscles will enhance your ejaculatory control.

#2 – Learning how to control the sensations leading up to an orgasm. The idea is to engage in stimulation (alone or with your partner) to bring yourself close to ejaculation, then stop to allow the sensation to go away. Performing this over time will allow you to recognize the feelings and response at the ‘point of no return’.

When it comes to lasting longer during sexual intercourse, one of the most difficult things for men to do is to reduce the receptivity of their minds to stimulation; in other words, keeping their arousal or mental stimulation levels in check. If you fail to keep your mental stimulation under control, you run a far greater risk of ejaculating too early. So how do you stop premature ejaculation by managing your arousal levels? There are many powerful techniques to help you last longer than the vast majority of men. Let’s take a quick and insightful look below.

4 Techniques To Reduce Inner Receptivity

#1 – “The Mind Wanderer”

One age-old technique that works well for many men is to engage in thoughts that have nothing to do with sex. Some guys get around the problem of bringing their stimulation level under control by doing mathematical solving, thinking about mundane office processes or even recalling the previous day’s major news headlines, just to name a few. Other methods that work involve clenching your fists or tightly shutting your eyelids. Will these work for you? Many men claim this distraction technique works very well. But every man is different, so you really have to test this out to know if it will do wonders for you.

#2 – “The Petting Extravaganza”

A more practical approach would be to engage in some form of petting as a stimulation continuum for your partner. This will allow you some time to “cool off” the stimulation you are getting during intercourse. This technique has two positive outcomes. First, you continue to arouse your woman and get her prime for a climax. Second, it helps to divert attention from your own stimulation and delay your orgasm.

#3 – “The Slippery Slope”

Using lubrication to delay ejaculation is a well-known technique. By reducing the amount of friction your penis receives during intercourse, you will lower the levels of stimulation you get from penetration. Some of the more effective lubricants require you to apply small amounts onto the area around your penis head and the part where the head meets the shaft about 10 to 20 minutes before engaging in intercourse.

#4 – “The Great Companion”

The effectiveness of this technique is well-documented and is a favorite of many guys. This method requires your partner to help stimulate your penis with her hands to the point where ejaculation is almost inevitable. At this juncture, you signal for her to stop stimulation. Once the sensation has subsided, you will ask her to resume. Repeated use of this technique over time will result in you being able to handle intense stimulation without the urge to ejaculate.

When it comes to increasing sexual stamina, there are various tried-and-tested techniques and strategies that have proven helpful in delaying ejaculation and helping you last longer. One of the best ways to achieve longer-lasting sex is by reducing your physical and mental stimulation. If you are prone to ejaculating early during sex (which many men are), then you will want to read this article now.

The truth about premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation or PE is by far the most common sexual dysfunction that affects as many as four out of ten men. The truth of the matter is that almost every man will experience the occasional inability to last as long as he wishes during sex. But if you are frequently ejaculating too fast, too soon, then you will need help. Here are two “step-down” stimulation techniques that you would find useful in ending your PE woes.

#1 – Curbing inner stimulation

It is proven that one of the most effective ways to increase your sexual endurance is simply to have sex more often. The simple truth (and backed up by studies) is that the more frequent you engage in intercourse, the less likely you are to come to a rapid ejaculation. Even if you reach an orgasm too soon, it is recommended that you continue to provide sexual pleasure and stimulation to your female partner using your tongue and/or your hands. This affords you some “recovery” time and go for a second round. And because you have already ejaculated once, the second fire will take a longer time. In fact, many guys experience an even more rewarding orgasm subsequently (and of course, the woman too!).

#2 – Curbing outer stimulation

Men are generally stimulated by sight and visuals. So, one proven way to delay your ejaculation is to reduce any form of external stimulation. For instance, if you could engage in acts of foreplay or intercourse with the lights dimmed out or even in complete darkness, that would help you a lot. If you are easily stimulated by a woman’s touch, then your partner can help by refraining from excessive hand or oral stimulation on you at the onset of lovemaking.

That said, the strongest form of stimulation that results in quick ejaculation comes from the act of intercourse. If you find that you are ejaculating too soon, switch to positions that reduce friction and stimulation on your penis. Certain sex positions that allow you to reduce the pace of penetration and adopt minimal thrusting – such as the woman-on-top – are also great for helping you last longer.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could always last as long as your female partner during sex without ejaculating too soon? If you are anything like 40% of most men, premature ejaculation is a constant bane you wish you could do without. But there is no need to fear. With the proper tips and strategies, you can turn around a lifetime of embarrassment and begin to enjoy incredible sex and finally give your woman the sexual pleasure that she deserves. Read this now and learn how you can stop premature ejaculation once and for all using non-intercourse sex techniques.

But first, what exactly is premature ejaculation? Are you really suffering from one?

PE is generally described as a lack of staying power in men during intercourse, or an insufficient ability to prolong the sexual act. Some men ejaculate even before any penetration takes place. But perhaps a more accurate definition is that the man is unable to last long enough to fully satisfy his partner.

Non-intercourse techniques to cure premature ejaculation

If you can lower the threshold and the time it takes to bring your woman to an orgasm, you can almost always outlast her during sex. Many sex therapists recommend this approach as a “first line of defense” against PE. Adequate acts of foreplay or even oral sex are great ways to build up sexual anticipation in a woman and get her all warmed up to the act. This will greatly reduce her inhibitions and enable her to reach a climax much sooner. Indeed, some women can achieve multiple orgasms even during the acts of foreplay or oral sex. If both you and your partner find this technique acceptable, then this will greatly reduce the pressure and anxiety on you to perform during intercourse.

The upside with this technique is that when you gain greater confidence, you will naturally be able to last longer over time. After all, premature ejaculation often stems from performance anxiety or stress.

Factors for consideration when using this technique

Some couples may be too inhibited to give this technique a go. There are women who still prefer to orgasm and be fully satiated through normal intercourse. On the other hand, there are men who experience even greater levels of visual stimulation when performing oral sex or foreplay on their partners, thus accelerating their potential for premature ejaculation! But this can be easily overcome by performing these acts with dimmed lights or in the dark to reduce visual stimulation.

Are you sick and tired of not lasting long enough during sex? Is delaying ejaculation becoming an arduous thing to do, one that causes you great embarrassment in front of your lover? There are many forms of sexual dysfunction that occur amongst men, and nothing is more debilitating than premature ejaculation. Yet the good news is also that premature ejaculation is the easiest to treat among all male sexual problems.

Indeed, you can completely cure PE using natural, practical methods without making embarrassing trips to the doctor. These are the key techniques and strategies:

#1 – Understanding your ejaculatory process and sexual responses

Without a proper understanding of how your body responds to sexual stimulation, you will never be able to control how soon you ejaculate during sex. Arousal control is key to keep PE in check. And before you can control your arousal, you have to understand how it works. In a nutshell, your body goes through 4 key stages of response during sex. The first stage involves “excitement” when your penis starts to fill with blood and becomes erect. The second stage occurs when your penis is fully erect and you feel relaxed and under control. Stage 3 is when intense sensations begin to envelop your penis and you are about to “pop”. This leads into the final stage where ejaculation takes place. The arousal and erection fade away soon after.

#2 – Developing mental control

Much of a man’s inability to hold ejaculation stems from psychological or confidence-related issues. The very thoughts that run though your mind during sex will affect your sexual endurance. Some guys allow the sensations of intercourse to rule over their head and that is a quick and surefire way to blow early. You must learn how to control your arousal right from the beginning. This can be achieved by focusing NOT on intercourse but on the entire sexual experience. This is a huge difference. To develop mental or arousal control, you need to focus on the ALL the sensations you experience and GIVE during sex, and not just focusing on how you feel in your own nether regions.

#3 – Regaining physical control

Adding physical control to mental control will allow you to totally re-wire your ejaculatory triggers so that you can decide when you want to ejaculate. Training your ejaculatory muscles is critical to developing physical control. You see, your pelvic or perineal muscles control when you ejaculate. By strengthening the proper set of muscles, you are able to keep them relaxed at all times even with the most intense sexual stimulation.

There is no better time to start than now!

Many guys just lament that they can’t last long enough, and never make the effort to address this problem. Others resort to short-term tactics like desensitizing sprays and creams which don’t address the root causes. But if you are willing to put in the effort to understand how you body responds and develop both mental and physical control over your ejaculatory reflexes, you will be able to completely TRANSFORM your sex life and enjoy sex to the fullest!

Are you embarrassed by the fact that every sexual encounter seems to last mere minutes, or even just seconds? Then welcome to the world of men who suffer from premature ejaculation. Truth be told, between 30 to 40 million American men (and many more around the world) are “too quick on the draw” during sex. Even 2 minutes of straight intercourse may seem like an impossible task if you are unable to prolong your ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation has got to do with both physical and psychological underpinnings. It is primarily NOT a medical problem, and can be effectively treated with the right strategies that address the underlying root causes. Here are 2 surefire strategies to help end your premature ejaculation problem once and for all.

Strategy #1 – Mental Resolution

Having the right frame of mind is crucial to lasting longer. When you are nervous or have some sexual performance anxiety to begin with, you are far more likely to ejaculate early. And sadly, the more often this happens, the more anxious you will be during the next sexual encounter. It becomes a vicious cycle. Do not give yourself undue pressure to perform. Here’s the thing: ejaculating early is not a problem, unless you choose to let it become one. Face up to your fears of inadequacies and communicate it with your partner. Chances are, your woman is probably feeling anxious about herself too – about how she looks when naked, and whether she can pleasure you during sex! Tell yourself you can only get better with time. You will.

Strategy #2 – Muscle Relaxation

If you are having performance anxiety or experiencing any form of stress, then this tip will come in handy. You see, one of reasons you are ejaculating early is due to your pelvic muscles tensing up during sex. How do you know if your pelvic muscles are tensed? Easy! Try to mimic the movement when you are stopping your urination halfway. You will feel a contraction somewhere around your anus area. This is the pelvic muscle. Try to keep this muscle relaxed during sex. As long as this muscle is not tensed, there is no way you can ejaculate. At the same time, try to keep all other muscles, especially your abdominal and thigh muscles relaxed too, because tensing any of these muscles have the tendency to cause your pelvic muscle to contract too.

An emergency “quick fix”

Now, if you need an ‘emergency’ technique you can use to stop early ejaculation, try this: when you sense you are about to ejaculate, firmly press the point between your anus and scrotum (or testicle area). You will feel some contractions – you will actually orgasm but without ejaculating. Once these contractions subside, your erection will lose some firmness, but you should be able to get your erection up soon and resume intercourse.

Let’s face it. As many as 40% of guys have the unfortunate distinction of being labeled a “minute man” in bed. And if you cannot last more than 2 minutes before ejaculating during sex, you are part of this unenviable statistic too. But do not fret! Premature ejaculation is not a permanent, lifelong sexual ailment. In fact, by adopting simple techniques to reduce your sexual arousal and stimulation, you can effectively last much longer in bed, or at least until your female partner achieves an orgasm.

There are many sex techniques you can learn to avoid ejaculating too early during lovemaking. Let’s take a quick look at 2 of the more effective techniques you can use tonight to last longer in the sack.

Sex technique #1 – “Thrust Less, Grind More”

Many men have this misconception that a woman will achieve an orgasm through relentless thrusting and penetration. This is far from the truth. Instead, when a woman’s clitoris is properly stimulated, she has a far higher chance of reaching a climax. And this is great news for guys who are premature ejaculators. Why? Because the positions that provide the most stimulation to the female clitoris are ironically the ones that stimulate your penis the least during intercourse! The cowgirl (woman-on-top) and doggie-style positions are 2 effective techniques you should try to give her a great time in bed while adding crucial minutes to your time to ejaculation.

Sex technique #2 – The “Capricious One”

This is a simple, highly effective technique that involves alternating between engaging in intercourse and oral sex. This is what you do: begin your lovemaking with oral sex. After she is properly stimulated after 5 to 10 minutes, begin your intercourse. When you sense that you are close to reaching a peak, resume giving her oral stimulation. This will give you time to ‘cool off’ before you revert to penetration once more.

Here’s a useful trick you can use. It is far easier for a woman to reach an orgasm through oral sex, so try giving her one. When she has already reached a climax, two things are in your favor. First, she will be able to achieve successive orgasms much easier and faster during intercourse. Second, when she has already climaxed during oral sex, it really doesn’t matter how long you last during intercourse. This will take a lot of pressure off you, which will incidentally help you last longer!

It is common knowledge the most women require at least 10 minutes of arousal and stimulation before reaching an orgasm. Both recommended techniques allow you to focus on providing proper stimulation to your woman. This is key to lowering her threshold for orgasm and help you last longer at the same time!

When it comes to avoiding premature ejaculation, there are no lack of myths and misconceptions about techniques that work and those that don’t. One of the most common techniques you would probably have heard of is using distraction of thoughts during sex. Does it work? Well, let’s find out the truth.

The straight scoop about distraction techniques…

Distraction techniques function on the basis of pre-occupying your mind with something else when you are close to an orgasm. Some guys think of non-sexual things such as sports or even ugly personalities to pull their minds off sex for a moment. It all sounds logical and some guys claim that this technique works for them. But there is an underside: you are taking away the joy of sex instead of staying in the moment to savor and fully experience lovemaking. Would sex be as fun and tantalizing if you were to think of something else? I think not!

Use this as an acid test: Would you prefer to be thinking about the wonderful woman you are making love to, or would you rather drum up some images of a dirty, scruffy football player? I think the answer is pretty obvious to you.

This is what you should do instead…

Now, instead of “tuning out” from sex using distraction tactics to delay ejaculation, why not “tune in” to sex? Well, this may seem counter-intuitive at first. You see, you may think that the very reason you are ejaculating prematurely is because your mind and body are being stimulated too much too soon. That is true, and that is is probably why you are trying to distract yourself to avoid blowing too early.

On the contrary, you should immerse yourself totally into sex, but the key is not in focusing on the pleasure of your penis in her. Instead you should focus on the whole-body experience of sex. Stay ‘in tune’ by taking the focus away from YOU to HER. Focus exclusively on pleasuring your female partner first and enjoy the fact that you are keeping her on the edge instead of yourself. This is surprising easy to do, and very effective in increasing your staying power in bed.

Practice makes perfect!

Of course staying in tune with the whole experience of sex cannot be mastered right away. It takes some practice, but it is something well worth doing and practicing. And your woman will certainly thank you for it when you are able to last long enough to give her that much deserved orgasm!

The inability to last longer during sex is the bane of many men. Premature ejaculation or PE often rears its ugly head whenever you least expect it. But here’s the good news: despite what many guys believe, PE is not a sexual condition that is permanently engrained in you. Simply by understanding how your ejaculatory system works and how to control the various ejaculatory reflexes or triggers, you can totally cure premature ejaculation and finally last as long as you desire during sex. Achieving this pinnacle in lovemaking will require some time and effort on your part.

But what if you need some emergency quick fixes to delay your ejaculation tonight? Well, here are 3 techniques you can put to use right away to keep your early ejaculation in check.

Technique #1 – The “Roof of The Mouth” Tactic

Very few men have heard of this technique. This is a distraction variation. Here’s what you do. When you feel you are coming close to a climax, press the tip of your tongue firmly against the roof of your mouth, then move it in a circular motion. This is simple, but highly effective in bringing down your arousal level.

Technique #2 – The “10-2-10″ Breather

The correct breathing pattern holds the key to prolonging ejaculation. When you regulate your breathing pattern, it keeps your mind in a relaxed state and helps you last much longer. Here’s how you adopt the proper breathing technique BEFORE sex: Breathe in for ten seconds, hold your breath for 2 seconds and then breathe out for another ten seconds. Repeat this for 2 to 3 minutes. As you perform this routine, your mind and body will naturally relax. Use this breathing technique during sex too. With enough practice, this will become natural to you. When you sense you are peaking during lovemaking, breath out fully. This will keep your pelvic muscles relaxed, and ejaculation will NOT occur.

Technique #3 – The “Master of Positioning”

Let’s face it. There are certain sexual positions that will make men ejaculate sooner, and the missionary position is one such ‘culprit’. You should experiment with various positions to find one or two that will provide less stimulation to your penis. The woman-on-top position is a good start. When you are close to ejaculating, try pulling your female partner down towards you to kiss her. This will keep your stimulation in check while allowing you to take over control for a moment. Hint: Take things slow at the onset and don’t get into rapid thrusting mode right away.

When it comes to sex, many men fail to live up to their women’s expectations and simply come to an early ejaculation too frequently. Inevitably, sex can become a dreaded affair, one that strains the relationship more than it strengthens it. Sounds like what is happening to you? Well, then take heart. Because if your early ejaculation problem is due to “performance anxiety”, it can be overcome with simple strategies to enable you to last longer than her, starting from tonight.

Follow this time-tested 4-step strategy and you will make sure you never climax before she does!

Strategy #1 – Foreplay extension

Do not plunge head on into intercourse right away. That is a surefire way to blow early during sex! Instead, take your time to give pleasure to your female partner and make sure she is adequately aroused and highly stimulated before you begin the actual deed. You see, women need extensive stimulation before her arousal triggers start to kick in. In other words, they are ‘slow-burners’. But once she gets aroused, she will stay aroused far longer than you, and it will be far easier to get her to climax before you do. Some women even reach an orgasm through foreplay alone.

Strategy #2 – Sexual innuendos

Encourage your female partner to share and reveal what turns her on. This will not only let you into her deepest sexual desires and fantasies, you will connect with her emotionally. This is absolutely vital to get her all warmed up to the act of lovemaking and get her primed for an orgasm before you do.

Strategy #3 – Oral stimulation

The vast majority of women love cunnilingus or simply, oral sex. It is one of the best ways to quickly build intense sexual anticipation within a woman. If you are prone to ejaculating too early, give her some oral stimulation before you start intercourse, or use oral sex as an interlude of sorts during lovemaking to keep your own stimulation in check, without breaking your partner’s pleasure momentum.

Strategy #4 – Confidence builder

If performance anxiety is your bane, the best way is to face it up front. Let your partner know she is turning you on such much and that you appreciate that. When you ejaculate too soon, tell her you still want to give her the pleasure she deserves, then proceed to give her stimulation either with your fingers, or your mouth. Most women will respect a guy who faces up to his fears. This has two positive implications. You still get to pleasure your woman even though you climax too early, and more importantly, you are building this confidence in you that she is sexually fulfilled. Over time, you will notice your performance anxiety disappearing and you will last much longer in bed, even outlasting her!

Are you embarrassed by your inability to last long enough in bed? If you are anything like most guys reading this, premature ejaculation affects you every so often, making you feel less of a man because you are not giving maximum pleasure to your female partner. But the truth is, premature ejaculation does not signal a premature end to your sex life. There are many techniques and strategies that will keep your early ejaculation triggers at bay, increase your sexual endurance and help you last longer in bed.

But first, let’s take a look at the effects of ejaculating too early and what many guys attempt to do.

Stop, start, stop, and start again…

Well, this is a common technique that many guys use in their feeble attempts to last longer. What happens is that when a guy comes close to ejaculating, he will suddenly stop ALL movement to reduce stimulation and arousal, and resume penetration when ‘all is well again’. While this work for some men, it surely does drive some women crazy as it breaks all momentum that the woman is clearly enjoying.

Other “first line of defenses”

And then they are guys who use condoms lined with numbing agents such as lidocaine that practically render them feeling almost NOTHING in their penis during sex. Well, they do last longer, but what’s the point? They barely enjoy sex!

Are you to blame for being “too quick on the draw”?

Don’t be too hard on yourself! Having premature ejaculation is not a curse. It is simply a case of “survival of the fastest”. What do I mean? You see, from an evolutionary perspective, rapid ejaculation is the very basis for the survival of the human species. Guys who ejaculate faster have a far higher chance of impregnating a woman than a man who takes longer to reach an orgasm. So, as much as what some men believe, premature ejaculation is not a sexual dysfunction. It is completely normal – in fact, up to forty percent of men fail to last at least 2 minutes in bed.

But no all is lost…

Of course, it does not have to be this way at all. The secret in enjoying long lasting satisfying sex lies in adopting simple natural techniques that will re-program your early ejaculation reflexes. Once proven technique is to understand and pinpoint your “ejaculatory inevitability”. In other words, to identify how your body responds and feels (on a scale of one to ten) through the 4 stages of sexual response – excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.

If all else fails, the best option would be to consult a sexual therapist. He would probably prescribe some form of medication or put you on a PE re-conditioning program to help you overcome your early ejaculation problem, giving you the physical and mental resilience to last much longer in bed.

There is a whole gamut of products that promise to help you acquire superior control over your ejaculation. Sprays, creams, pills… these are just a handful of quick fixes that many guys use in their attempts to last longer in bed and enjoy better sex. But really, do they really enjoy better sex? Truth be told, many of such products actually dull the sensations you feel during intercourse, making the whole sexual experience somewhat less pleasurable than you hope for. But what if there is a better way to control premature ejaculation, one that permanently cures your early ejaculation problem?

Forget about the “band-aid” cures. You are far better off spending a little time and effort to learn how to achieve complete control over your ejaculation – permanently. You can achieve this by understanding how your ejaculatory reflex functions and how to completely control your ejaculation triggers. You tackle this at two levels:

#1 – Emotional Level

Stress and anxiety are known to contribute to premature ejaculation. Such stress can be related to sex or otherwise. Guys who suffer from sex-related stress often worry about their performance in bed. Either way, stress and anxiety will in all likelihood trigger early ejaculation as a way of releasing the emotional tension. To overcome such emotional triggers, you need to develop superior mental control through stress-relieving techniques such as controlled deep breathing and regular exercise. Exercise is an extremely useful way to achieve an overall well-being of your state of mind, and helps to release tension which would otherwise be released during sex, resulting in premature ejaculation.

#2 – Physical Level

When it comes to physical stimulation, some men are unable to handle beyond one to two minutes of arousal. The key to overcoming this problem lies in training your ejaculatory reflex. There are certain muscles in your pelvic area that control the release of fluids, including urination and semen. Specific exercises such as kegel are extremely useful in strengthening these muscles for better ejaculatory control. Such exercises also help to keep the perineal muscles in a relaxed state. As long as these muscles remain relaxed, you will NOT ejaculate.

Discipline and consistency are key to your success in lasting longer

Just like losing weight or acquiring those impressive pumped muscles, you need to adopt a disciplined approach in order to completely and permanently cure premature ejaculation. By following a specific training and conditioning program tailored to your needs, you will not only be able to delay your ejaculation, but to ejaculate exactly when you WANT to.

It will not happen overnight. But it is certainly something worth doing if you want to experience long lasting sex that both you and your woman will truly enjoy.